Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Update

I know it's been a few days since I last blogged, so I just wanted to give you an update...

Meg and I have been busy getting ready for the new school year (she came to school with my mom and I and organized my classroom library!!) She's still feeling nauseous and doesn't seem to have much of an appetite. She claims that it's all worth it, so that's a good sign!

Friday is our next ultrasound appointment...I think we're supposed to hear the heartbeat, so that's exciting! With only 2-4 weeks left at RMA we're running out of time to find an obgyn.

This afternoon I spoke with a receptionist from a doctor's office affiliated with a brand new hospital opening in November. It's only 17 minutes from our house, so it's perfect AND it's located in NJ, so my name can go on the birth certificate at the time of the birth. BONUS!

The receptionist was really nice. She told me that there are 6 doctors and 4 midwives in the practice and that they would see Meg anywhere between 8-10 weeks. While I've heard of many people who love midwives, Meg and I are opting for a doctor.

Assuming we schedule an appointment in advance, we won't have any layover between doctors and appointments, which means less worrying on my part!

16 comments:

  1. I can't wait to hear all about you guys hearing the heartbeat! That will be so exciting!!
    It ticks me off that you don't have the option to put your name on the birth certificate in any state. That is so stupid. Lol

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  2. It is stupid. Hopefully one day that will change. The worst is that if she gave birth in PA (where we live) I would have to pay a social worker to do several home studies and then appear in court on my behalf to adopt Meg's biological child. It's ridiculous! But, if we go over the bridge and give birth in NJ it's just paperwork.

    Anyhow, I'm so glad you read (and comment). It makes me feel like I'm not just writing for the hell of it...so, thank you!

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  3. That is so ridiculous! It makes me so mad that the laws aren't the same for everyone. Don't get me started on that tirade!
    Lol. I am however, glad to know that my state (I live and grew up in Jersey) makes it easier on you.
    Are you kidding me? I stalk this blog, I check it multiple times a day to see if you wrote a new one! Haha.

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  4. lol, I love it!!! I'll try to write more (school starts today!!!)

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  5. I agree I've replaced my obsession with Baby TV for your blog and have updates by e-mail so I don't miss anything. Try and keep us updated I need distractions during the 2WW. Not feeling very positive but its only 4dp iui

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  6. Aw, I feel so loved!!! Meg wasn't positive either (you know, you read about it) You just never know. Let go of the notion that you're supposed to have symptoms and "feel pregnant" I think that's the problem with the 2ww...everyone expects to feel things that don't really happen until a week after you miss your period (at the earliest!!!) I'll be thinking of you and I'll try to stay up on the blogging! :-)

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  7. Not to take over your blog but, hi Kate! I am 5dpiui and in the TWW! Good luck!

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  8. Take over!!! I love all of the comments! I wish people were more interactive! Way to start it off, ladies!

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  9. Well in the spirit of taking over Hi MeganP! I'm driving myself nuts and google everything hoping for a sign. Last time round I only saw positive things in every article and it didn't work. This time I only see negative. Reading Jen and Megs blog keeps me on the straight and narrow and gives hope that eventually it will work. Good luck MeganP I've got everything crossed for you x

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  10. Kate, Meg was REALLY negative when it actually worked. Try not to read into the signs. They'll make you crazy!

    I'm crossing everything for both of you (and anyone else who is in the tww)

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  11. Did you guys actually talk to a lawyer about the being able to put your name on the B.C. at the time of birth? We know that Maryland and D.C. offer that and AR does not, so I was trying to scheme some way to make it easier on us (my idea was far fetched but anyways) I contacted a lawyer from Maryland - supposedly one of the top adoption lawyers for gays - and she said that there are residency restricitions. In maryland I believe it was 30 days you had to be a resident in order to have the other parent put on the B.C. and in D.C. it was 90 days. If you haven't already I would check into that so if there is a residency restriction, you can send some mail to a buddies house or something if ya know what I mean. But you guys are very lucky...I think we are screwed in this department.

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  12. Oh, that's a shame. I wish it was easier and didn't vary from state to state. The last time we talked to the lawyer she explained that NJ would allow my name to go on the birth certificate at the time of birth because we're legally married (and NJ recognizes it) The lawyer is from PA and was well aware that we lived in PA. She was the one that suggested we give birth in NJ to avoid the home studies.

    I guess worst case scenario my name gets put on the birth certificate after the adoption papers go through. (wouldn't be the end of the world)

    We're definitely going to sit down with her and make sure all our ducks are in a row...it seems like things change all of the time.

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  13. Yeah, you guys are lucky! Arkansas supreme court just deemed a law unconstitutional - it said "only a heterosexual married couple can legally adopt." So that meant that single ppl straight or gay couldn't adopt either. I'm sure AR will be one of the last states that allow gay adoption. I think we are going to be stuck with just a bunch of paperwork covering us - which is unfortunate. Our lawyer said we could TRY to have me adopt and her maintain her rights - we do qualify (it's not called second parent adoption though)but we could pay all that money and then have the judge at the end deny it. So we have some decisions to make later!

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  14. wow! That's terrible. I know a lot of states have gray areas and our rights tend to fall into them, but I never heard of laws against adoption. That's ridiculous! (for single parents too!) I'm kind of mad right now!

    Have you ever thought of moving?

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  15. Sigh, well the reason we are here is because Tommie wanted to be closer to her mom and now 12 year old sister. Cuz her mom died 2 years ago there's no way we would leave, at least until she goes to college. Then at that point, Tommie won't want to move because she doesn't want to uproot our kid. So we are stuck like chuck lol. And trust me, it pisses us off too!

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  16. I understand. Well, maybe something will happen federally and arkansas will be forced to change its' ways. Until then, it sucks that you have to fill out paperwork that offers you very little protection, but it's probably better than nothing.

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