Saturday, December 29, 2012


I periodically check in with the California Cryobank to make sure our donor still has vials available.

I checked a little less than a month ago and it said he had 25+ (which is what it says when the vials are NOT in limited storage)

I had some time the other night, so I figured I would just log in and check...again.

Words cannot even describe how I felt when the screen read,

No vials are available for this donor, and no vials are expected to become available in the future. The donor's information remains available for purchase by clients who have previously used this donor.

To ensure vial availability, please take advantage of CCB's Family Today/Family Tomorrow Program. CCB Client Services is available at 866-927-9622 to answer any questions.
I felt physically nauseous. My heart raced and I was devastated. I turned the screen towards Meg and her face dropped. We reread the notification several times (each time hoping to find a mistake) Meg asked what we were going to do and I calmly told her I would call the cryobank the next morning as soon as it opened.
Turns out that our donor retired and he has 0 vials left. I placed us on a notification list should any vials be sold back and/or he reenter the system.
Unfortunately, as it stands now, it's looking like we're going to have to pick a new donor. It's extremely frustrating and disheartening, but we're trying to remember that everything happens for a reason.
We've already talked and embraced the fact that using a different donor will not make Avery's brother/sister any less of her sibling. They will be raised the same. We came to the conclusion that it's no different than Avery being adopted by me. She's still my child, regardless of her genetic makeup.
I just wish it was easier.
This whole situation brings about a whole new set of fears...Avery is guaranteed one form of contact once she reaches 18 (should she choose to take advantage of it). What if Avery's donor wants nothing to do with her and the second donor is really open to the idea? (or vice versa) 
I know that there's nothing we can do. The entire situation is out of our control. We definitely want to have another child. (Meg wants two more...but I don't want to have play zone defense, so we'll have to cross that bridge years down the line!!!)
I guess the best thing we can do is just to be honest with Avery and her brother/sister.
At the end of the day, we've been blessed to have such a beautiful, healthy daughter. This isn't the end of the world. It is, but a minor hiccup in our next chapter of trying to conceive (we're not trying yet...we're thinking this summer, so that we can try to time it like we did for Avery) so who knows...maybe our donor will come back...fingers crossed.
Please, let this be a warning to those of you who are waiting to purchase extra vials...don't wait! You never know what can happen!

Want to see pictures/videos of Avery?

Ok, so I've been having a lot of problems with uploading pictures to the blog recently (apparently I used up all of my storage space)

I think I may have told you that I accidentally deleted pictures from older posts because I was trying to make room. Whoops!!!

In order to rectify this problem, I created a share site (also called Wiegand Writes). It's free and runs through Shutterfly. It's pretty awesome, but it requires an invite from yours truly.

If you would like to see pictures and videos of Avery on a regular basis, just click on the link below and/or comment on this post and I will send you an email invitation to the site. (make sure you include your email address if you leave a comment!)

I hope you enjoy it!!!

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Friday, December 28, 2012

18 Updates

A lot has happened since the last time I blogged (NOTE- the following updates are not in any specific order):

1. Avery celebrated her 7 month birthday
2. She started crawling (army crawling, but it still counts...) 
3. Her top teeth started coming in (they have taken forever and are just now starting to really breakthrough)
4. She said "Mama" (though it still sounds a little angry) 
5. She sat on Santa's lap (and didn't cry...she actually smiled)
6. She picked out two Christmas trees (our first one died two weeks into December). 
7. She learned how to clap (she claps ALL the time!)
8. She learned how to blow raspberries (it's really more like spitting in a cute way) 
9. She tried turkey and loved it.
10. She ate butternut squash and pasta (she picks them up all by herself)
11. She had her booster flu shot and only cried for a second.
12. She has a new play area in our living room (equipped with her own storage system from IKEA, a LOT of toys, and a learning carpet-we found out that the foam tiles can cause cancer so we opted against them...despite how cute they look!)
13. She made Christmas arts and craft presents for family members (she fingerpainted Christmas trees)
14. She went to her first 1 year old birthday party-can you believe that her boyfriend, Jack, is 1 already?!?! (she had been invited to two other 1 year old bday parties but had to miss them because of illnesses)
15. She went Christmas Eve shopping (it's our annual tradition).
16. She is learning to sit up from lying flat on the floor...she's close, but needs to perfect her form
17. She's starting to pull herself up...I'm not quite ready for this yet! 
18. She upgraded to Britax Roundabout convertible carseats (They fit perfectly into our compact cars!)

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Christmas Festival

Meg and I took Avery to a Christmas Festival this past weekend. She was really excited!

We walked around, did some window shopping, listened to the live entertainment, and shared soft pretzels and apple cider. We didn't wait in line to see the gingerbread house competition.



Instead, we stopped to check out the book store (we LOVE books). We ended up buying Avery a Christmas book written and autographed by a local author. (I forget the title, but it's something along the lines of Monty's's a story about a dog who gets adopted later in life. It's a little long for a children's book, but it's cute.) We haven't had the chance to read it yet because we also bought The Christmas Parade by Sandra Boynton (which we've pretty much read every night!)

I also bought the last girl Elf on the Shelf. I gave in to the idea a while back (even though I still think they're entirely creepy...I swear her eyes follow me around the room!!) but when I went to buy one from Target I came back with the "wrong one." Apparently, the cuter, plush version is unacceptable and would cause people to make fun of us. Haha...needless to say, the stuffed animal elf was returned.

Probably one of the most exciting parts of today's adventure was that Avery wore shoes for longer than 30 seconds! (She ALWAYS kicks them off) She rocked a pair of red Toms. She looked so cute!


Avery had so much fun that it tired her out.

Monday, December 3, 2012

Thanksgiving/Black Friday


Meg worked on an art project with Avery early Thanksgiving morning. Together they made turkey place cards using Avery's hands and finger paint. They turned out really cute!!!

We then went over Meg's parents' house for breakfast. There, we enjoyed some awesome Manhattan bagels and watched Avery and Ryleigh play.

For dinner, we headed over to my parents' house. It was bittersweet because my parents were sad (they had to take their 9.5 year old Newfoundland to the animal hospital for surgery) On a more positive note, dinner was great and Avery didn't cry for family (she has really bad stranger danger these days).

Here are several pictures from Avery's First Thanksgiving:

Hanging with Uncle Brandon...

Avery's project...

Head of the table...

Sitting with her great nana and great papa...

Meg's Turkey brownie pops...

Family picture...Avery missed the smile memo


We didn't venture out early like previous years. Instead, we slept in, relaxed a little, and then hit the mall in the afternoon.

Avery wanted to hit Target, but we decided to wait on that.

At the mall, we hit Baby Gap (talk about crazy), waved to Santa, checked out the fountains, and then went to Build a Bear.

Avery LOVED Build a Bear. She picked out the cheapest bear (we gave her the two cheapest to choose from) which was awesome. She helped step on the pedal to stuff her bear. She even kissed the bear's heart and watched her get sewed up. 

Meg and I helped Avery choose an outfit. Meg and I then named her bear. We called her "Merry" in honor of Avery's First Christmas. (Avery had passed out by that point!)

It was a great start to the holiday season!

Friday, November 30, 2012

6 month check up and first road trip

Let me just preface this post by stating that I wrote this blog weeks ago! The hold up occurred because blogger wouldn't let me upload pictures (apparently I used up all of my free storage) To make matters worse, I accidentally deleted pictures from my earlier posts while trying to figure it out (I'll tackle that problem another day) As of now, the crisis seems to be resolved (I created a shutterfly share site)

Now to the original post...

Avery's 6 month check was, by far, the most traumatizing of all of her appointments thus far...she had serious stranger danger for the nurse and flipped at the doctor when he was examining her (she screamed bloody murder and had real tears!) She had to have 4 shots and the rotavirus. In terms of stats, she was/is perfect. She was 27 inches (85%) and weighed 17 lbs 4 oz (70%)

This past weekend Megan and I took Avery to New York. It was our first official road trip (unless you count our trip to the beach when she was really little) and our first time staying in a hotel.

Avery was great. We planned the drive around her naps. worked like a charm, as she slept the entire way there (and back).

On Friday, we picked up Panera Bread (so much more expensive than PA, but totally worth it!) and then checked into the hotel. We fed Avery food and let her get acclimated. We then put her down for a nap. When she woke up we took her to the "heated" indoor pool.

The water was way too cold...I could barely get my legs in. Avery loved it though. We were only in the water for a few minutes, but we managed to get plenty of pictures!

On Saturday, we went to our friend's house (Aunt Paff) and had breakfast with her and her mom. Avery played on the floor and enjoyed some food and puffs, while we munched on bagels. After breakfast we had to haul ass back to the hotel to prepare for the baby shower.

We had less than an hour to get the three of us showered and dressed. We also had to put Avery down for a nap. It was a little stressful, but we somehow managed to make it to the restaurant in time for Meg to help set up.

The food was awesome (we had calamari, salad, penne vodka, chicken parm, and way too many desserts!) Meg helped to make sure our friend enjoyed her special day and I got to parade Avery around. She was good as gold. It was a great day!

Here are some of the highlights from the shower:

Meg's first attempt at a diaper cake...

Meg's super addictive brownie pops.

Saturday night we went out to eat at Panera. It wasn't as good as Friday (not sure if it was because we were full from the shower or just because the workers were in a rush) BUT we had fun with our friends.

When we went back to the hotel we passed out. Avery slept through the night without a peep (she slept through the night on Friday too!)

On Sunday, we went to the Christmas Tree Shoppe (the best store in the world!) and then met our friends at a diner for breakfast.

It was an amazing weekend. I (we) can't wait until baby Mia is born, so we can do it again!

Sunday, November 11, 2012

Christmas Card Sneak Peek

I know it's probably hard to believe (seeing that we've been together for almost 10 years), but Meg and I created our very first Christmas card today.

While I cannot reveal the official card...(not yet, at least) are a few pictures from today's photo shoot.

*Note* The following pictures were not chosen for the actual card as there were many others, which we found to be cuter

Sunday, November 4, 2012

We're Back!!!

I can't believe that it has been over two months since I last blogged. There is so much to report that I don't even know where to begin. I guess I should go in chronological order, so lets rewind to Avery's 4 month birthday (I think that's where we left off)

4 months (September 3)
Avery's 4 month check up went well. She was 26 inches (93rd percentile) long and weighed 15 lbs 9 oz (79th percentile).

Also, in September...Avery got her second tooth and slept through the night for the first time (it took her long enough!!)

She also went on a swing for the first time (I had a cute video, but I can't seem to pull it up)

Mid-September we took Avery to a scarecrow festival...we bought Avery some bows and enjoyed a nice fall evening together.

We also went to the Camden aquarium...Avery loved looking at the fish!

We had family portraits taken for my mom's birthday..Avery was awesome!

Meg and I went to a wedding, so we left Avery with my parents. (It was our first time away from her for an extended period of time! We had a good time, but I text my parents 1,000+ times!)

Avery started sitting up (though she still needed a lot of support) Oh, and she finally fit in her DUKE onesies!

We took Avery to our local farm. We went on a hayride to the pumpkin patch. Avery loved it!

5 months

Avery sported a strange facial rash for her 5 month birthday. Still not sure what it was from. She was really cranky despite the smiles in the pictures below!

Avery started drinking water out of a cup. She thought she was so cool...look at her drinking one handed!

We took Avery to the market day festival in our town. There, she was reunited with her boyfriend, Jack, and his two moms.

On October 12, 2012 we went to court for Avery's adoption...the judge approved it! Avery is legally my daughter!

On October 13th, Meg and I celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary. Here are two pictures from our wedding in Cape Cod, MA...

Avery went down a slide for the first time.

She said "Da Da" (October 14th) My response..."You don't have one. Try two mamas!"

Avery learned how to dance. Her favorite song is "The Wobble."

We visited Meg's parents. There, Avery dressed up in her lady bug costume and painted a pumpkin. (Make sure to check out her two teeth!)

Avery met a new friend...Rylee...Rylee is a few weeks older and also has two moms. They're too cute together!

The girls went trick or treating for the first time together...Avery was a Lady bug and Rylee was an Owl...Love Avery's monster face!

6 months

This weekend we took Avery to an Apple Festival. We celebrated Meg's birthday (she's 28) and Avery's half birthday (so cool that their birthdays are 6 months apart) and ate lots of delicious apple pastries!

Avery's 6 month check up will be November 12th. She's working on her 3rd tooth (this one is on top). Other than that, I think we're pretty much up to date!!!