Saturday, December 29, 2012


I periodically check in with the California Cryobank to make sure our donor still has vials available.

I checked a little less than a month ago and it said he had 25+ (which is what it says when the vials are NOT in limited storage)

I had some time the other night, so I figured I would just log in and check...again.

Words cannot even describe how I felt when the screen read,

No vials are available for this donor, and no vials are expected to become available in the future. The donor's information remains available for purchase by clients who have previously used this donor.

To ensure vial availability, please take advantage of CCB's Family Today/Family Tomorrow Program. CCB Client Services is available at 866-927-9622 to answer any questions.
I felt physically nauseous. My heart raced and I was devastated. I turned the screen towards Meg and her face dropped. We reread the notification several times (each time hoping to find a mistake) Meg asked what we were going to do and I calmly told her I would call the cryobank the next morning as soon as it opened.
Turns out that our donor retired and he has 0 vials left. I placed us on a notification list should any vials be sold back and/or he reenter the system.
Unfortunately, as it stands now, it's looking like we're going to have to pick a new donor. It's extremely frustrating and disheartening, but we're trying to remember that everything happens for a reason.
We've already talked and embraced the fact that using a different donor will not make Avery's brother/sister any less of her sibling. They will be raised the same. We came to the conclusion that it's no different than Avery being adopted by me. She's still my child, regardless of her genetic makeup.
I just wish it was easier.
This whole situation brings about a whole new set of fears...Avery is guaranteed one form of contact once she reaches 18 (should she choose to take advantage of it). What if Avery's donor wants nothing to do with her and the second donor is really open to the idea? (or vice versa) 
I know that there's nothing we can do. The entire situation is out of our control. We definitely want to have another child. (Meg wants two more...but I don't want to have play zone defense, so we'll have to cross that bridge years down the line!!!)
I guess the best thing we can do is just to be honest with Avery and her brother/sister.
At the end of the day, we've been blessed to have such a beautiful, healthy daughter. This isn't the end of the world. It is, but a minor hiccup in our next chapter of trying to conceive (we're not trying yet...we're thinking this summer, so that we can try to time it like we did for Avery) so who knows...maybe our donor will come back...fingers crossed.
Please, let this be a warning to those of you who are waiting to purchase extra vials...don't wait! You never know what can happen!

Want to see pictures/videos of Avery?

Ok, so I've been having a lot of problems with uploading pictures to the blog recently (apparently I used up all of my storage space)

I think I may have told you that I accidentally deleted pictures from older posts because I was trying to make room. Whoops!!!

In order to rectify this problem, I created a share site (also called Wiegand Writes). It's free and runs through Shutterfly. It's pretty awesome, but it requires an invite from yours truly.

If you would like to see pictures and videos of Avery on a regular basis, just click on the link below and/or comment on this post and I will send you an email invitation to the site. (make sure you include your email address if you leave a comment!)

I hope you enjoy it!!!

Please email requests to:

Friday, December 28, 2012

18 Updates

A lot has happened since the last time I blogged (NOTE- the following updates are not in any specific order):

1. Avery celebrated her 7 month birthday
2. She started crawling (army crawling, but it still counts...) 
3. Her top teeth started coming in (they have taken forever and are just now starting to really breakthrough)
4. She said "Mama" (though it still sounds a little angry) 
5. She sat on Santa's lap (and didn't cry...she actually smiled)
6. She picked out two Christmas trees (our first one died two weeks into December). 
7. She learned how to clap (she claps ALL the time!)
8. She learned how to blow raspberries (it's really more like spitting in a cute way) 
9. She tried turkey and loved it.
10. She ate butternut squash and pasta (she picks them up all by herself)
11. She had her booster flu shot and only cried for a second.
12. She has a new play area in our living room (equipped with her own storage system from IKEA, a LOT of toys, and a learning carpet-we found out that the foam tiles can cause cancer so we opted against them...despite how cute they look!)
13. She made Christmas arts and craft presents for family members (she fingerpainted Christmas trees)
14. She went to her first 1 year old birthday party-can you believe that her boyfriend, Jack, is 1 already?!?! (she had been invited to two other 1 year old bday parties but had to miss them because of illnesses)
15. She went Christmas Eve shopping (it's our annual tradition).
16. She is learning to sit up from lying flat on the floor...she's close, but needs to perfect her form
17. She's starting to pull herself up...I'm not quite ready for this yet! 
18. She upgraded to Britax Roundabout convertible carseats (They fit perfectly into our compact cars!)

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Christmas Festival

Meg and I took Avery to a Christmas Festival this past weekend. She was really excited!

We walked around, did some window shopping, listened to the live entertainment, and shared soft pretzels and apple cider. We didn't wait in line to see the gingerbread house competition.



Instead, we stopped to check out the book store (we LOVE books). We ended up buying Avery a Christmas book written and autographed by a local author. (I forget the title, but it's something along the lines of Monty's's a story about a dog who gets adopted later in life. It's a little long for a children's book, but it's cute.) We haven't had the chance to read it yet because we also bought The Christmas Parade by Sandra Boynton (which we've pretty much read every night!)

I also bought the last girl Elf on the Shelf. I gave in to the idea a while back (even though I still think they're entirely creepy...I swear her eyes follow me around the room!!) but when I went to buy one from Target I came back with the "wrong one." Apparently, the cuter, plush version is unacceptable and would cause people to make fun of us. Haha...needless to say, the stuffed animal elf was returned.

Probably one of the most exciting parts of today's adventure was that Avery wore shoes for longer than 30 seconds! (She ALWAYS kicks them off) She rocked a pair of red Toms. She looked so cute!


Avery had so much fun that it tired her out.

Monday, December 3, 2012

Thanksgiving/Black Friday


Meg worked on an art project with Avery early Thanksgiving morning. Together they made turkey place cards using Avery's hands and finger paint. They turned out really cute!!!

We then went over Meg's parents' house for breakfast. There, we enjoyed some awesome Manhattan bagels and watched Avery and Ryleigh play.

For dinner, we headed over to my parents' house. It was bittersweet because my parents were sad (they had to take their 9.5 year old Newfoundland to the animal hospital for surgery) On a more positive note, dinner was great and Avery didn't cry for family (she has really bad stranger danger these days).

Here are several pictures from Avery's First Thanksgiving:

Hanging with Uncle Brandon...

Avery's project...

Head of the table...

Sitting with her great nana and great papa...

Meg's Turkey brownie pops...

Family picture...Avery missed the smile memo


We didn't venture out early like previous years. Instead, we slept in, relaxed a little, and then hit the mall in the afternoon.

Avery wanted to hit Target, but we decided to wait on that.

At the mall, we hit Baby Gap (talk about crazy), waved to Santa, checked out the fountains, and then went to Build a Bear.

Avery LOVED Build a Bear. She picked out the cheapest bear (we gave her the two cheapest to choose from) which was awesome. She helped step on the pedal to stuff her bear. She even kissed the bear's heart and watched her get sewed up. 

Meg and I helped Avery choose an outfit. Meg and I then named her bear. We called her "Merry" in honor of Avery's First Christmas. (Avery had passed out by that point!)

It was a great start to the holiday season!